(My adventures with Max continue with the next post.)
TAKING DELIVERY OF THE U.S. MALE.
A woman walks down the street. Though she’s neither beautiful nor dressed enticingly, every man turns to look as she passes by.
What’s her secret? She’s sexy, that’s what. She’s got IT. That smug, Mona Lisa smile hides not just an inner ease but downright delight with her femininity, her body, her sexuality. She enjoys sex and she likes men. A lot. That vibrates. That attracts. She’s an irresistible, walking declaration: I enjoy being a girl!
In a world where shaming strictures against sex — religious, cultural — still conspire to steal our natural birthright to sexuality, our claim to feminine fulfillment as a woman has been cruelly repressed. Other, more direct negative experiences, like rape or sex abuse, just serve to shut us down more and retreat further into shame.
Like many women of my generation, growing up, sex was a taboo subject in my house; the healthy, vibrant sexuality I came to possess later in life was hard fought by giving the heave ho to that baggage. And that’s a set of Louis Vuitton I won’t be claiming ever again, thank you very much. Because embracing my Inner Goddess has brought all sorts of wonderful changes to my life, many of them miraculous: when you love and accept yourself at your very essence, the core of your identity, your sexuality, it is healing of the very deepest kind. Bedrock you.
For those of you who squirm at my unabashed embrace of Eros, ask yourselves why you feel uncomfortable — therein lies your learning and your opportunity for growth. Because you weren’t born ashamed. Babies don’t cover their crotch when we change their diapers. Toddlers run around naked, ecstatic. Shame is learned.
Hopefully, you’ll do your homework, as I did. Because what has that shame ever done for you? In fact, it’s done a lot to you. So you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Besides, we’re not getting any younger, so why hold onto any manufactured, artificial buzzkill that makes you feel bad and doesn’t actualize your potential for full-tilt joy? By activating the sexy, liberated YOU 2.0, you’ll make sure you rock your later years to the max, and go out with a bang … or, preferably, many of them!
The first step to being sexy is seeding your intention, preferably within the first couple days after a new moon, the most fertile planting time to create anything. Writing it down makes it that much more committed, and so, effective. Now, make it your focus, at least while you’re cultivating it — later, generating heat 24/7 will come so naturally, it will be second nature. You can maintain that sexy focus in your head, or consolidate it on a vision board, as I did for my transformation.
Love yourself to the roots of your femininity, revel in it. Heal your sexual chakra by taking bellydance classes like I did, or pole dancing. Specific yoga poses like the Cobra and the Locust work, as well. It’s all about opening, and moving, your hips. Swivel onward, Goddess!
Be sexy. Read erotic stories, watch erotic movies. Pleasure yourself daily. If you haven’t already, explore sex toys. Soon enough, you’ll have a real live sex toy pleasuring you.
Feel sexy. Activate your sensuality by consciously feeding your five senses. Eat a succulent piece of fruit, savoring each juicy bite. Luxuriate in a fragrant bathtub, keep scented candles lit around your home. Really feel the satin slide of your pajamas, or even better, when you’re counting sheep, let it be nude, against a 700 thread count. With the lights off, listen to music you love, noticing the different instruments. Turn off the screens and gaze at the perfect beauty of a flower, a seashell, an aquarium — a gorgeous man!
Think sexy: Your trusty mantra: “I’m a sexy Goddess!” “Damn, I am hot!” Because if you don’t think that, who else is going to?
Act sexy. Just like when you act anything long enough, the day comes when you’re not acting, it’s who you really are. Strut around like I do, with a sexy soundtrack in your head, whatever’s sexy to you. For me that’s Antonio Carlos Jobim, Nicolas Jaar, and so many more. Then there are the self-esteem anthems guaranteed to take you from rut to strut, my favorite, “I’m Feelin’ Myself” by Will i.am and Miley Cyrus. No earbuds, please — being sexy is being present and available.
Now for my most out there tip of all, but it’s worked for me and other women I know, attracting the most utterly divine men into my life: At the full moon, get naked, lie down and spread your legs to take in the pure, feminine essence that is moon energy. If you are in direct moonlight, all the better. State your intention to draw in a beautiful man. Be receptive, open. Do this for as long as you are comfortable, feeling the energy coming into you — for me, ten to twenty minutes. The next day, go about your sexy business, as usual. You may MANifest within a couple months or even before the next full moon, as I did. In any case, you have a monthly opportunity to practice this ritual.
It goes without saying, sexy accoutrements have an important role, as well: not only do they put you in the mood, outer sexiness broadcasts the message: “I want you to want me,” which is siren music to men’s ears. But, ultimately, makeup, hair, lingerie, sexy clothes and perfume are just the icing on the fabulously seductive hotcake that is you.
You’re sexy and you know it.
Yours truly,
